Catherine Page Jeffery, Lecturer in Media and Communications, University of Sydney
In just over a month Australia’s social media ban will begin.
From December 10, those under 16 will only be able to see publicly available content on platforms such as Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok, X and YouTube. They will not be able to have their own accounts.
For example, they could look up Taylor Swift’s latest music video on YouTube, but they would not be able to post their own content.
There are no penalties for children who access an account on an age-restricted platform, or for their parents. Platforms face fines of up to A$49.5 million if they don’t take reasonable steps to implement the ban.
While the changes have been welcomed by some safety experts and parent advocates, eSafety acknowledges, “many parents and carers are worried about how under 16s will react to no longer having access to social media accounts”.
If you have a child or teen who loves social media, how can you help approach this change, while minimising conflict in your family?
Read more: The social media ban is coming, whether families like it or not: 5 ways to prepare kids and teens
Social media is already a source of conflict
My research shows young people’s social and digital media use is already a major source of conflict for families.
A lot of the tension comes from parents not understanding the important role digital media plays in young people’s lives, and young people reacting to “unfair” restrictions imposed by parents.
So conflict around screen time rules and parents’ social media restrictions is common. Young people can put a lot of pressure on their parents for devices or access to certain platforms to fit in with their peers (“but all my friends have it”).
One of the federal government’s rationales for the social media ban is to help parents manage this situation – because people are already finding it hard.
So, potentially, some families may find relief in being able to say “this is just what the government says, this is the law”.
Uncertainty ahead
But we still don’t really know what’s going to happen come December 10. Some of the criticism of the ban has been that young people will find a way around it, such as by using a VPN (which can mask location and identity). Experts are also concerned about the reliability and privacy implications of age verification technology,
Meanwhile, some parents may also help their children circumvent the restrictions.
If a lot of parents in a friendship group are helping their children get around the ban, this could in turn create pressures on other parents and lead to conflict or resentment in families.
Parents need to remember there is no blanket right or wrong answer. All families and kids are different and its important to make decisions based on your family values and your child’s maturity.
Acknowledge it’s hard
Either way, if young people are used to social media and suddenly it’s gone, they might be really sad, annoyed or angry. And parents will have to manage the fall out.
We know young people can forge important connections with others over social media. It’s not just mindless scrolling, it’s a significant way to interact with peers. This is especially important for marginalised young people.
So young people will need to find other ways to connect – and parents should help their kids maintain their social connections.
It’s also important parents are not dismissive and acknowledge this may be a difficult time and transition.
Young people tend to respond much better to rules and regulations when they are given a clear rationale and a clear reason.
For example,
I know it’s hard. It’s out of my hands, this is a decision made by the government. We may not like it, but this is the way it is. Can I help you find another way to connect with your friends or participate in these communities?
You may also want to note how time away from social media, where young people may be doomscrolling or exposed to cyberbullying, can be healthy.
Don’t assume kids are now ‘safe’
One risk of the ban is parents will now think kids are “safe” online. We know children are likely to find other spaces online – and if they don’t, their friends will. And the ban only covers certain platforms.
Parents needs to keep talking to their children about what they see and do online
Parents also need to keep providing opportunities for children to develop critical digital literacy skills – this means they can assess what they are reading and seeing and not just taking it on face value. Children also need help to navigate social relationships online as they grow up.
This means children under 16 need ongoing opportunities to explore online spaces with support and guidance. This doesn’t necessarily mean parents monitor everything their children do online. But they should show an interest in their children’s activities, and be available to help navigate any risks and tricky situations.
Catherine Page Jeffery receives funding from the Australian Research Council.
